The Foundations of Ethical Marketing for Therapists
Sep 23, 2026The Foundations of Ethical Marketing for Therapists
I used to hate selling.
It made me feel awkward.
I felt like I was tooting my own horn, trying to convince people I was worth listening to, or pushing them toward something they may not even want.
That never sat well with me.
And if you are a therapist, counselor, coach, or helper, you may know that feeling.
You care about people. You want to help. You do not want to manipulate anyone. So when marketing starts to feel like pressure, hype, urgency, or self-promotion, part of you wants to run the other way.
I get it.
That is how I felt too.
But over the last couple of years, Tad Hargrave from Marketing for Hippies has helped me see marketing differently.
Once I understood the fundamentals, marketing stopped feeling like trying to impress people.
It started feeling more like helping the right people find the right help.
That changed how I saw the whole thing.
You can also listen to our full conversation in The Foundations of Ethical Marketing for Therapists, Part 1.
Maybe Marketing Isn’t the Problem
A lot of us have a picture in our heads of what marketing looks like.
It is the loud ad.
The promise that sounds too easy.
The email that tells you to act now before it is too late.
The person online telling you how amazing they are.
No wonder we do not want to do that.
But Tad makes an important distinction.
The marketing I trust usually does not feel like somebody is marketing to me.
It feels like someone sharing useful work.
It feels like a trusted friend saying, “You should talk to this person.”
It feels like finding someone who understands your problem and clearly explains how they think about it.
That feels a whole lot different than trying to tell everyone how great you are.
Tad calls self-promotion a kind of human kryptonite.
Most of us are not comfortable telling everyone how great we are.
And maybe we do not need to get good at that.
Maybe we need a better way.
Ethical Marketing Starts With Truth
One of my favorite ideas from this conversation was simple:
Do not go for the sale.
Go for the truth.
Is this a fit or not?
Now I am asking a different question.
Instead of asking, “How do I get this person to say yes?” you ask:
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Can I really help this person?
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Do they need what I actually offer?
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Are we a good fit for each other?
Sometimes the answer is yes.
Sometimes the answer is no.
Yes is fine. No is fine too.
That is where ethical marketing starts.
You do not need everybody to become your client.
You are helping people figure out whether you are the right person for them.
That feels a lot closer to helping people than selling to them.
Foundation One: Ethics
Tad puts ethics at the bottom of his marketing pyramid.
That matters.
Because if you get the tactics right but the foundation wrong, you may still get people to buy. But over time, trust falls apart.
Think about the businesses you tell your friends about.
Usually, trust is part of the story.
I shared a story in the episode about a mechanic.
A chain shop told me I needed a repair that would have cost thousands of dollars.
Then I went to a local mechanic.
He could have taken my money.
Instead, he told me I did not need the big repair.
He fixed the actual problem for a fraction of the cost.
I told people about that guy for years.
Why?
Because he had a chance to take advantage of me and did not.
That is marketing too.
People remember when you treat them right, and they tell other people.
If you treat people well, help them make the right choice, and sometimes tell them, “I am not the right person for this,” people remember that.
Doing the right thing is not getting in the way of your marketing.
It may be the reason people trust you enough to send someone else.
Foundation Two: Space
This one surprised me.
Before you worry about Facebook, your website, or your next marketing idea, Tad says you need space.
Why?
Because good ideas are useless if you do not have time to use them.
You can learn the best marketing strategy in the world, but if your calendar is full, your inbox is overflowing, and you are already saying yes to too much, where will the strategy go?
There is no room.
This is where we get tricked.
We think we need one more tactic.
Sometimes we need one less commitment.
Tad talked about getting serious about what we say yes to.
Every yes has to come from somewhere.
If you say yes to one more meeting, one more project, one more favor, one more thing you “should” do, you may be saying no to the work you keep telling yourself matters.
That hit me.
You may not have a marketing problem.
You may have a space problem.
Before adding something new, ask:
What do I need to stop doing so I can make room for this?
Foundation Three: Niche
Niching can make therapists nervous.
It can sound like turning people away.
But Tad framed it in a way I found helpful.
You cannot be everything to everybody.
And trying to be everything to everybody does not necessarily help people.
A better question is:
Who can I really help?
Tad suggested two questions:
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Do these people light you up?
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Can you really help them make progress?
Those are good questions.
They may want to work with you.
That does not automatically mean you should work with them.
And here is another idea from the conversation that stuck with me:
Your deepest wound may point toward your truest niche.
Think about the places where life has been hard for you and where you learned something on the other side.
That does not mean every painful experience needs to become a business.
But it may be worth asking:
Where have I walked a road that now helps me understand someone else better?
Sometimes what you have been through helps you see who you are especially good at helping.
Marketing Can Be More Fun Than You Think
I used to think marketing meant talking about myself more.
Tad helped me see it is really about getting clear.
Clear about who you help.
Clear about what you believe.
Clear about what you offer.
Clear about who is a fit and who is not.
When those things are clear, you do not have to push so hard.
You do not have to convince everyone.
You do not have to become a polished salesperson.
You do not have to learn a hundred closing tricks.
You can share your work.
You can build relationships.
You can make it easier for people to talk about what you do.
You can give people enough information to decide if you are a fit.
Marketing may still feel awkward sometimes.
But at least you are not pretending to be some slick salesperson.
And sometimes, I actually enjoy it.
Start With the Foundation
If marketing feels icky, do not start by asking which tactic you need next.
Start lower.
Ask:
Is my marketing built on trust?
Do I have room in my life to do this well?
Am I clear about who I really want to help?
Those questions are not as flashy as the latest marketing trick.
But if you skip them, everything you build on top gets shaky.
If this speaks to you, listen to Part 1 of my conversation with Tad Hargrave.
You can also learn more from Tad through Marketing for Hippies, Instagram, and his YouTube channel.
You do not need to become a better salesperson.
You need a way to market that still feels like you.
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